You often wish you had a better life, own more property and material things in order to be happy. What exactly do I want? What is my goal? What is the meaning of mylife?
Most people answer that they do want to be happy.What would make you feel happy?
What does happiness mean to you?
Money?
For example, you may be want to have a nice car, but is that your goal infact? Most probably you want to have it just to feel independend, self-confident, prosperous, authority and to be more attractive to ladies…
You do not want the car itself, but the way it would make you feel, you want to get the feeling of having it. Imagine that you already have this car. Will you be happy then? Is this the one thing that will make you happy? Undoubtedly, money and material posessions are necessary to you. They are just means that help you achieve your goals in life. What do you want infact? What is your goal?
Love?
Undoubtedly, love makes you feel happy. It comes sometimes, you feel fire inside your heart, then fall in and out of love. You will become depend upon other people and get dissappointed by them if you rely on love by other people to make you feel happy. Everyone needs love but it can not be the ultimate goal of his life. You can not concentrate on it and strive for it permanently because it will not come to you by your order.
Do you need security? Is that what you want?
There is nothing secured nor certainty in life. The only certain thing is that there is nothing certain. If you posess something that can not make you secure because you can lose it at any time… Nothing is eternal, nothing lasts forever. Your security is not based on the posession of material things but on the way you cope with them. As Josef Kirschner says:
„Your small personal happiness is not build on the so called big things on the world. Its ground are the insignificant hindrances and the way you overcome them.“
Finally, it turns out that you expect something external has to come into your life, you need to receive something and that will make you feel happy. I do not claim that money and love are not important, on the contrary – they are important. Are money and love your ultimate goal in your life, are they what you strive for, are they the meaning of your life? Are not they things that you naturally deserve and should have in your life?
Very many people say that they „want nothing“ because subconsciously they think that they do not deserve anything good. According to me, everyone deserves to be happy just because he exists. Sandra Ann Taylor writes something in her book „Believe in your fortune“ and I love it very much:
„You deserve only the best! Your merit and contribution never changes and it is not doubted, there is no criteria to be covered, you are not obliged to do anything. Being a child of God, you ALWAYS deserve and FOREVER will deserve all those wonderful things that the abundance of the Universe has to offer you.“
Just imagine that all that you have ever dreamt of is reality. You have all that you want, you have to do nothing because you have already achieved everything that you wanted… You are in Paradise. How would you feel like… would you feel that you are happy?
Yes, certainly you will feel happy for some time in the very beginning. After that you will „get used“ to that feeling and it will be your normal state of mind. May be you will get a little bit bored of that, will not you?… It will be too прекалено подредено, еднообразно… There is nothing to shake you and make you move forward because you have everything you need… there is no personal growth, nor development and change.
Do not you feel that the happiness is just a short while of life that you feel whenever you achieve some of your goals? After that it is not happiness anymore… Is not the happiness hidden in the changes of the life, in the self-growth and development, in the achievement of something, in the motion, in the life itself… Why all fairy tales end in this way „they lived a happy life for ages“… and the story never continues? Because it would not be interesting.
Would a movie be interesting to you if there is nothing to happen, nothing that is achieved or overcome by the main heroe? Would you feel the real joy of something that you already just have? Will not you wish that any development and change happens and something new take place in your life? Because the change is life, the development is life.
It seems that there is illusion hidden behind everything that you strive for and think that will make you happy. In fact there is no goal that you can achieve and be happy forever. I agree with Lao Dz when he says:
„The Way is important, not the goal itself.“
It is important to determine YOUR goal, what you can do and would like to do, everything that makes you feel good and you are talented for. That is not an ultimate goal that will make you happy when you achieve it but that is your Way, your Direction in life. That is something that makes you feel passionate when you do it, allows you to express yourself, fills in your heart and issues from your soul.
Whenever you find your goal, things start to happen smoothly, without any efforts as if God is always with you and helps you. Circumstances are on your side so that you can walk the right way to your goal and you also meet people who help you. When your goal is set, means are available and accessible to you.
When you decide what you want, the way will show you… because that is your Way. There is an endless organizational power hidden inside your energy when it is concentrated in one goal. The Way to your goal will make you happy while you walk it, not the achievement of the goal itself. There is a wise quote that says:
Many people strive for the top without realizing that the pleasure is in the process of the climbing of the mountain.
Your life is here and now and so the happiness is here – NOW. The goal is not the goal itself nor the meaning of your life. The Way is important – the motion forward, your change, self-growth , development, realization and achievement.
You can feel that your Way is set in the right direction whenever you feel comfort and convenience. It will bring you pleasure and you feel that you are living here and now. You should enjoy the process of the achievement of your goal.
I consider that if you devote yourself to what you do and feel pleasure and happiness by doing it, your goal will achieve itself because it is on your Way, it is just a part of your Way.
How to find the right Way? It is situated in the direction where your soul feels peace and comfort. That is the most correct criteria showing that you walk on the right Way. All your goals will be achieved somehow by itself when you are on the right Way that is your Way.
In fact I wanted to preview a different aspect of this topic but my thoughts got me here. It happened „accidentally“ even though obviously accidental things are full of meaning. May be I had to get to enlightenment, orientate myself and find my own Way?
What do you think? Please share your thoughts and opinion. It would be interesting to hear your comments.
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Author: Rosica- www.sebepoznanie.com
Translation: Vanya Osmanlieva www.VirtualAssistants.bg